Here comes the Bride

Here comes the Bride all dressed in white! yes, that will be me in a few weeks from now. Let me back you all the way up to May 15, 2014 we got engaged!!!! I wish I had a picture to post of the ring but I must be honest and say, it's lost in a huge stack of photos in which I would have to dig through to find. So, until then we got engaged and I called home to let my parents know the exciting news. I was up visiting with his parents in Rio Vista when he got on one knee and thank God he did because I rushed over him and kissed him and was so excited and in love and so happy that he did at last ask me cuz he sat that ring box where I could see it so I knew it was coming, I just hoped it was for me and that it was coming to a heart near me soon! So anyway I waited and watched for that ring to appear almost all week long! I was so happy to get it. Very happy!

Before that I got a beautiful, beautiful, promise ring before my 26th Birthday in March.  I have to mention, I was really sick. During that visit I had an abstract tooth, the worst feeling pain ever so of course it had to get pulled shortly before his arrival. I was on antibiotics and that was great! I have a bit of a confession to make, I will not for any reason swallow a pill. Yep, I just cannot get passed those gag refluxes, no thanks. I will take it crushed. Garret, anyway crushed up those pills and made sure I was comfortable. I was true love. I had small little canker sores where they had worked on removing my tooth and sore all over from having this ordeal take over my life the week he was here. I was not myself. We took a drive out to Julian for some apple pie and of course that is when he noticed my father's ring which he had given me was missing from my finger, so he than surprised me with a promise ring! It was so exciting for me! He than took me to eat thankfully it was a quiet little place where I could try to get a hot soup down, even that was a challenge. I knew he loved me when he could come all the way down from Northern California to enjoy spending time with a me that was less than attractive to be with. His promise ring made being sick feel like a good memory and not one that would last as one of the worst times in my life.

Before long, there would be a new decision he would have to make in his life. He wanted to wait on the Lord to see if he would be moving to Southern California or staying put in Northern California. I for one was not moving up North for any reason and he for one did not want to move down here for any reason. I lived in a seriously busy city in San Diego and he lived in the middle of no where, it's still the middle of no where to me. I still can't possibly see living there in my young life, there is so much to do and a whole lot of running around that I am currently used to as my way of life, it's my life style it' how I have lived my life. Well, Garret wasn't having it, to him a fast pace life was not the life for him and living far out and away from all of normal every day civilization seemed like the last place I wanted to go or would go. We were at a stand still in our relationship, we could almost hear each other say, "fine! I'm not moving," so we could stay happy put right where we were.


As God would have it, he was moving things right into place for both of us. I was not moving up North and Garret was not moving down here. I petitioned for a busy life while he petitioned the Lord for country living. I didn't figure on God satisfying us both. One afternoon while walking over to Jean's house a little lady who was aging gracefully and I loved her with all my heart. I would from time to time come by to see how she was doing, maybe help her around the house with very, very light house cleaning. She and I would talk a lot she certainly was a "fire cracker" Garret would say. She had a lot of spunk. I had told the Lord while walking over to her house, "oh Lord 20.00 isn't a paycheck!" I whined. I felt the Lord speak into my spirit. "It might as well be nothing, change your attitude and it can be more." Sure enough.

On one of my visit to see Jean we sat at table together, I had fixed her coffee that morning. I was a basket full of emotions, "How can I move up north?" She completely understood, my love of the ocean. "Well, she said, "what are you going to do sit up on the river and cry all day?" "Yes! yes, that is exactly what I plan to do." Is exactly what I thought. After all what else can you do all day, accept sit up on a river stick your feet in and cry. That pretty much covers your entire day. It is though the perfect way of getting to know God though. All that country and not much to do, the only thing to start getting doing is knowing who God is more intimately.

The last night I had with her in her home she lay in bed, knowing she would be leaving the next afternoon she asked me, "can you see yourself living here?" she asked me? Of course, it had, crossed my mind. It had become a desire in my heart to live in her beautiful country looking cottage. It was adorable in it's country vintage way, with beautiful wooden shutters and vintage wall paper in each room, I could not deny it's quaint welcoming warmth which had quickly drawn my heart. In no way did I imagine it could be our first home that Garret and I would have. Little did I see it coming.

Before we knew it, Garret was moving down to the little cottage to prepare for the life we would have together. This way we could plan a wedding together and plan out the start of our future together. Our exciting start quickly! became a nightmare. He had just moved down here without a job or a single stability for himself to stand on accept the house that had by God's grace came to be a beautiful wedding gift. At first there was an agreement that no payment would be added to him for the cost of utilities or rent considering the circumstance of no job. Well, that no job for several months turned into a quick hand over of money he did not have to turn over. Thankfully, I was working at the time and so I paid the low number of 100. Satisfied, we won time we needed until God would open a new door. One thing after another, we had gone out to grab dinner one night and upon arrival back to the little cottage to our utter horror and shock we found his dog completely bloody by having been hit on the busy road. It was one of the worst pains we had ever faced together. There was no money to be had to help save the dog' life. We were months away from getting married and our lives were a disaster!

We got on a sight that would help us get donations for the dog to help us afford any his medical bills. This sad situation had a bit of a twist of humor to it. He had been fairly scratched up, but thankfully not single bone in his body broken, accept for his, get this, butt hole, of all things! His bottom!!! He had to get his butt hole remade. It made for a bit of a laugh. At least the dog made it with his life and we thanked God for that. We couldn't be more glad that God was in it the way God had been. I watched Garret give God all the thanks all the way through it. When we thought things couldn't get any worse they did, he lost his phone to the busy street, which he had left on his car, it sprang right off the top of the car where he had left it. It was time for a new cell phone, something I will be needing soon, myself. By December nothing was looking good. We had family issues arising that were less than pleasant and he had than been scammed 3,000 from his bank. Getting married in my dad's eyes were not looking good at this point. This was not what my dad had in mind for me.

What were we to do? So we began to pray. We gathered with pastors and many family members from my mother's side of the family who are strong in the Lord and in His word. When it came down to it we knew what it was that we needed to do. Although we had been hit with one thing after another, we recognized that there was a spiritual war for our marriage. (Everything) had come against us and everything tried to separate and come to divide our already strong relationship. I had come to question if maybe Garret should have never moved down here if maybe all these things would not have happen. I partly blame myself for it. If he had just stayed up North maybe all these things would never have happen!

There was no getting around the attacks that would come in various waves. If we could be attacked we were. It could come from family members and outside sources. We were beside ourselves. We knew we needed to be married. It wasn't how I imagined my world would turn out but I also knew that Garret was my husband and that everything that could come against us would and we needed to put an end to his spiritual battle for the marriage that we knew would happen. Regardless of our financial situation we knew we were called to each other. We also knew this would not go over well if we decided to go ahead and get married. We also knew that not getting married would continue to invite spiritual attacks upon us including our financial stability in which every way had already been attacked. We knew that Marriage was God's thing, His idea and it was the enemy's mission to keep us from that goal of marriage. We had experienced it and we knew exactly what it was that we were faced with.

Well, here we are today! We got married at the court house on January 9th 2015. We are still having a wedding event and are very excited about it. We have a beautiful country cottage home that we are living in and are very comfortable in our home.  We really love it, we are doing excellent with our finances like never before and doing well all around. We are really looking forward to our wedding event. We are so very happy and glad at last to be past these various attacks that had come our way. We are at last catching our footing. Remember that weddings and marriage are God's thing and it will always come under attack. No matter what. Like Garret say's, "If your not trying to live for Christ, there is no point in the enemy trying to attack your walk, let alone your relationship, and he sure doesn't care if your both not trying to live for Christ." But when you are two strong spirit - filled children of the Lord and you bring them together you can bet your bottom dollar there will come every attack in the book imaginable and we faced about everything that put us through the ultimate test of not our relationship but our faith that God would show up for us every time and sure enough God never did fail us.