I marvel at being married. I often wonder how my husband feels about it. I used to have my own bathroom now I'm sharing a bathroom. I marvel at all my things mixing in with my husbands things. My shampoo and body wash are now sitting in the same shower as my husbands shower body wash and shampoo. My things touch his things, accept my things invade his space entirely. My hair brush sits out where he can see it from time to time. The medicine cabinet is filled with some medicine and some beauty product. His world is colored with me. We share a closet, where his clothes meet mine half way. Marriage is a lot of your stuff and his stuff coming together but a lot more of your stuff invading his world, a daily reminder that you are there and presently living in his world for good!
Marriage is marrying two different temperatures into one successful comforting feeling of love. I marvel at how well God made both Garret and I to fit so well together. I am mostly cold, all the time. He is mostly warm and comfortable all the time. I love cozy socks almost all year round, never matching of course. When I am cold he is warm. We fit together perfectly in each other's arms. I marvel at how well we melt into each other's embrace. We fit like two people becoming one, I marvel.
Being married I notice the bed continually needing to be made. I make it only to have to sleep in it at the end of the day. At the end of the day we are tired, ready for bed but still we make time to get on our knees before God, it is the place to be at the end of the day. When we wake up I feel too tired, lazy even to make the bed right as I get up out of it. So I find that now! that I am married, I leave the bed unmade for most the day before I actually attempt to make it. In my unmarried life, I made the bed right away and it was made right away before I headed down stairs for the day. Some how I seem to have become lax on continuing this best habit in life. I hope to pass this good habit to others, wake up and make your bed first thing in the morning before you do anything else. Yet, I can't even say I hardly do that myself. I really need to get back to that good habit. I do after all love a bed that is made or is it that I just don't have a nice bed spread to use as of yet. I suppose my desire to make the bed has decreased because of this reason. That really shouldn't be a reason to not make the bed by any means but it sure doesn't encourage me. I make it none the less with that we do have and I am thankful for it.
My life has not been so busy that I can't get to doing dishes. So dishes don't get done on the dime asap! Lately there has been more time spent with Garret and Garret spending time with me that we seem to hurry up and eat and then run to go do things together that dishes become secondary to our love relationship that we have been cultivating. Seems like the dishes get done but not as fast as they I used to when I was unmarried. Garret and I both marvel at how such dishes can pile up while it's just the two of us but it happens, dishes pile up from time to time.
In my former life as a single women and living for the Lord, I was super busy taking care of my Grandparents and now I am busy taking care of my man and he is busy taking care of me. Before me, Garret was taking care of his mom and family and now we are melting into each other and becoming one with each other as we learn to love each other through serving the Lord and each other. He takes great care of me and I take care of him this is how we love each other. He has slowed me way down from me always being on the go. Garret loves the life of watching movies and going out for a fun evening. Life is not always about working too hard with him. He has taught me a beautiful way to marry work and pleasure. There is such a thing as taking a break and enjoying the family you love, Garret has taught me this. He is a firm believer in working efficiently and effectively not so much working over time and overwhelming ones heart and mind into what you can do faster with less time and yet the job gets done with excellence.
I think I may have relaxed too much because all we have done so far is celebrate, eat lots of food and celebrate some more! Now I am wondering if it just may be time to get my game together and start working out again. After all we have had no game since the wedding day. Is that normal? We have been celebrating non stop it seems and having countless dates and yummy treats and in home dates with long cuddles and kisses, movies and yummy treats. All my baking does not help the cause. Perhaps I should volunteer my time towards a mission trip that would take me out of all my cozy and comforts and all my eats. For now that is life anyway. It is about time for me to begin a workout once again. I am feeling like a terrible example to start with. I have not been nearly as helpful in the way that I can encourage you to keep your life organized because I have been so relaxed. I know and it is about time I did something about this.
Soon, soon, I will be getting myself back on the game and ready to kick this life into organized fashion in some way. I would like to get this going. I am one day at a time, one step at a time. Married life is a marvel of many wonderful changes and melting into one another becoming one. The one other change that I have clearly noticed is Garret's willingness to watch movies, like Hallmark movies that I just love to watch. In fact Garret will even make us my favorite, "Raquel pop-corn" so yummy, goody. We take turns enjoying movies that we both like. Our world is a like a beautiful mixture of scribbles of colors all coming together to make one big beautiful picture. We are meshing our likes and dislikes together.
Maybe, that's why we have gone into our own personal shell. We just love to be into each other. We really don't reach out to anyone else around us outside of my family anyway. We just kind of do our own thing and keep to ourselves. I suppose that is all also a part of Newlywed life. We shut everyone else out to become one more and more. Yes we do come out of hiding more often then not but mostly we are enjoying our secret time together but that is how it is. Eventually life will get busy and we might not have this time of intimacy the way we do now. We do love everyone but we are in love and loving being in love at the moment. I didn't even go away for a women's retreat, next year maybe. I am still enjoying going everywhere with my Husband. The store is still one of our little day dates that we do enjoy doing together.
If you want to enjoy reliving your Honeymoon years, marvel at your current surroundings. Do your stuff still touch his? or are you living in luxury where you have forgotten what it is not to have the space to have your things and his things touching. Live like you have a little and make that little stretch like you don't have a lot. Determine to need each other again. Share the space you have and make the space yours and his together, something you share.
Be willing to pick up the slack. Sometimes you will be picking up his boxers, that's okay. It's not going to be 50/50 at all. Nope, no way. It's you and it's him, sometimes he will and sometimes you will. Love, does. Love is willing to do and to give and to do whatever it takes to make the world go round within your love for each other. If you are disgusted at the sight of unfinished work that does not get completed you are officially up tight. Relax, things will get done. One way or another. Sometimes you will be the one picking up the slack. Do it with a loving and kind heart. Don't begrudge the gift of being able to love by your actions too.
Watch movies together and do things that you both like doing. It's not just about doing what you like to do. "Balance" everything is balance. Together you work together to do things you both like doing together besides intimacy there are things to do outside of the bedroom. For example learn to play a card game together. Focus on having full on conversation that lasts for a few hours. Learn something about each other. Sit! in the same room together. Just be. learn to enjoy being in each others space.
If I could give any gift to you at all towards the marveling of your marriage it would be to absolutely rededicate yourself to the Lord. Reignite the candle. Light the love with the Word of God. Start reading it together. If you have or have not already read the whole Bible all the way through, reread it again. It could never hurt to read it over again. Start praying on your knees together. It's time to be humble again together. After all we don't approach God with a prideful spirit. Being on your knees again is the place to be.
Start all over again. Tune the world out again for awhile and turn into each other rediscover intimacy. Do things together like two best friends who are inseparable. "Becoming one again." is a journey all it's own. Learn to fall into each other once more. When you learn to become one again you will learn to scribble together and enjoy all the intimate facets of who you are with each other once again that made you love what you saw in each other to begin with. Make your first love your number one fan. The one you turn to for every thing. The one you enjoy spending time with. The one you fight with but mostly fight for. Your marriage is worth fighting for unto the end. Never stop Marveling your marriage. It is never too late to fall in love again with the love you fell in love with. Never stop falling in love with loving the spouse God gave you. Marriage is a gift from God.
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